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November 25, 2007 Posted by | News and Views | , | 1 Comment

Are You a Type D?

Are You a Type D?

The Dangers of Chronic Distress

Are you worried, irritable and socially inhibited?

A simple test may help predict the health effects.

BY MICHAEL CRAIG MILLER, M.D. YEARS AGO, WHEN THE psychologistJohan Denollet was first working with cardiac patients at a university hospital in Antwerp, Belgium, he noticed a paradox. Some heart-attack survivors remained cheerful and optimistic, even though they had suffered extensive cardiac damage. They joined eagerly in rehabilitation programs and adhered to them. Others, though, grew discouraged. They tended to resist rehab, even after milder heart arracks, and spent most of their energy complaining. Denollet, began to suspect that there was something fundamentally different about these two groups of patients. So he set out to find a way of measuring it. The tool he developeda simple, 14-question personality test known as the DS14is now opening a new frontier in cardiology.

The test, defines overall distress in terms of two emotional states:“negative affectivity”(worry, irritability, gloom) and“social inhibition” (reticence and a lack of self -assurance). High distress scores are strongly associated with both hypertension and coronary heart disease. And among people who already have heart conditions, those with the highest distress scores – the so-calledType D personalities– are less responsive to treatment and have a poorer quality of life. They are also more likely to die prematurely.

Denollet’s DS14 isn’t the first attempt to link personality to medical risk. During the 1960s and ‘70s, psychologists devised a short alphabet to describe the different tendencies.Type A’s – the perfectionists and strives who worked weekends– were deemed to be the most likely candidates for heart disease. Relaxed, non-competitiveType B’s were supposed to be the models of health. AndType Cs– outwardly pleasant people who avoid conflict by suppressing their feelings– were said to be cancer-prone.

How strongly could your distress score affect your health? The study found that Type D patients were more than four times as likely as others to experience heart attack or death within six to nine mouths of the procedure.

The DS14 is looking more and more like a parlor game worth playing. But don’t panic if you score at the high end of the scale.Type D personality itself is not a mental illness. It is a collection of normal human traits. And as Denollet is quick to point out, “there are many Type D individuals who are living healthy lives and functioning quite well.” A good marriage can be an antidote to social inhibition, especially if your partner’s ease with people compensates for your own discomfort. And even the most distress – prone person can learn through psychotherapy to cope with stress and beat back anxious thoughts. Many Type D people have trouble seeking help – by definition; they’re ill at ease and afraid to open up to others – but physicians. Family members and friends can help them over those hurdles. And the test itself can help Type D people own up to their fears and frustrations, since it doesn’t require any embarrassing social interaction.

EVEN IF YOU NEVER FULLYconquer your distress; you can take practical steps to make it less toxic to your health. Daily exercise and a wholesome diet will reduce almost anyone’s risk of a heart arrack. And lifestyle changes that protect your heart can improve your emotional state as well. In a 2001 study, Denollet found that comprehensive cardiac-rehab programs had the effect of boosting people’s moods as well as their survival rates, making their lives both richer and longer.

Test

The social and emotional problems associated with Type D personality can increase your chances of developing heart disease. Read each statement and circle the appropriate number to indicate your answer. There are no rights or wrong answers: your own impression is the only thing that matters.

Circle your answers:

 

False

Less False

Neutral

Less True

True

1. I make contact easily when I meet people 4 3 2 1 0
2. I often make a fuss about unimportant things 0 1 2 3 4
3. I often talk to strangers 4 3 2 1 0
4. I often feel unhappy 0 1 2 3 4
5. I am often irritated 0 1 2 3 4
6. I often feel inhibited in social interactions 0 1 2 3 4
7. I take a gloomy view of things 0 1 2 3 4
8. I find it hard to start a conversation 0 1 2 3 4
9. I am often in a bad mood 0 1 2 3 4
10. I am a closed kind of person 0 1 2 3 4
11- I would rather keep people at a distance 0 1 2 3 4
12. I often find myself worrying about something 0 1 2 3 4
13. I am often down in the dumps 0 1 2 3 4
14. When socializing, I don’t find the right things to talk about 0 1 2 3 4

ADD YOUR ANSWERS

Negative Affectivity:Add scores for questions 2, 4, 5, 7, 9, 12 and 13

Social Inhibition:

Add scores for questions 1, 3, 6, 8, 19, 11 and 14

SCORE THE RESULTS

You qualify as a Type D personality if your Negative Affectivity is 10 or higher and your Social Inhibition is 10 or higher.

Source: Newsweek Magazine

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How to make your wife happy!!

How to make your wife happy!!

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1. Beautiful Reception * After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you: begin with a good greeting…Hello or

* Start with Assalamau ‘Aliaykum and a smile. salam is a Sunnah and a du’aa for her as well.

* Shake her hand and leave bad news for later!

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2. Sweet Speech and Enchanting Invitations

* Choose words that are positive and avoid negative ones.

* Give her your attention when you speak of she speaks.

* Speak with clarity and repeat words if necessary until she understands.

* Call her with the nice names that she likes, e.g. my sweet-heart,

honey, saaliha, etc.

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3. Friendliness and Recreation

* Spend time talking together.

* Spread to her goods news.

* Remember your good memories together.

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4. Games and Distractions

* Joking around & having a sense of humor.

* Playing and competing with each other in sports or whatever.

* Taking her to watch permissible (halal) types of entertainment.

* Avoiding prohibited (haram) things in your choices of entertainment.

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5. Assistance in the Household

* Doing what you as an individual can/like to do that helps out,

especially if she is sick or tired.

* The most important thing is making it obvious that he appreciates her

hard work.

 

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6. Consultation (Shurah)* Specifically in family matters.

* Giving her the feeling that her opinion is important to you.

* Studying her opinion carefully.

* Be willing to change an opinion for hers if it is better.

* Thanking her for helping him with her opinions.

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7. Visiting Others* Choosing well raised people to build relations with. There is a great

reward in visiting relatives and pious people. (Not in wasting time

while visiting!)

* Pay attention to ensure Islamic manners during visits.

* Not forcing her to visit whom she does not feel comfortable with.

8. Conduct during travel

* Offer a warm farewell and good advice.

* Ask her to pray for him.

* Ask pious relatives and friends to take care of the family in your

absence.

* Give her enough money for what she might need.

* Try to stay in touch with her whether by phone, e-mail, letters, etc..

* Return as soon as possible.

* Bring her a gift!

* Avoid returning at an unexpected time or at night.

* Take her with you if possible.

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9. Financial Support

* The husband needs to be generous within his financial capabilities. He

should not be a miser with his money (nor wasteful).

* He gets rewards for all what he spends on her sustenance even for a

small piece of bread that he feeds her by his hand (hadeith).

* He is strongly encouraged to give to her before she asks him.

10. Aiding in the Obedience to Allah

* Teach her what you know of the Qur’an and its tafseer.

* Teach her “Dhikr” (ways to remember Allah by the example of the

Prophet) in the morning and evening.

* Encourage her to spend money for the sake of Allah such as in a charity

sale.

* Take her to Hajj and Umrah when you can afford to do so.

11. Showing Respect for her Family and Friends

* Take her to visit her family and relatives, especially her parents.

* Invite them to visit her and welcome them.

* Give them presents on special occasions.

* Help them when needed with money, effort, etc..

* Keep good relations with her family after her death if she dies first.

Also in this case the husband is encouraged to follow the Sunnah

and keep giving what she used to give in her life to her friends and

family.

12. (Islamic) Training & Admonition

This includes

* The basics of Islam

* Her duties and rights

* Reading and writing

* Encouraging her to attend lessons and halaqahs

* Islamic rules (ahkam) related to women

* Buying Islamic books and tapes for the home library

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13. Pardoning and Appropriate Censure

* Accounting her only for larger mistakes.

* Forgive mistakes done to him but account her for mistakes done in

Allah’s rights, e.g. delaying prayers, etc..

* Remember all the good she does whenever she makes a mistake.

* Remember that all humans err so try to find excuses for her such as

maybe she is tired, sad, having her monthly cycle or that her

commitment to Islam is growing.

* Avoid attacking her for the bad cooking of the food as the Prophet PBUH

never blamed any of his wives for this. If he likes the food, he eats

and if he doesn’t then he does not eat and does not comment.

* Before declaring her to be in error, try other indirect approaches that

are more subtle than direct accusations

* Escape from using insults and words that may hurt her feelings.

* When it becomes necessary to discuss a problem wait until you have

privacy from others.

* Waiting until the anger has subsided a bit can help to keep a control

on your words.

it is part ONE of a summary of the book “How to make your wife

Happy” by Sheikh Mohammed Abdelhaleem Hamed.

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Flowers are raining outside the Eidgah ,Sikh community welcomes the Muslims

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The flowers are raining outside the Eidgah. The beauty of this picture lies in the fact that Sikh boys are welcoming the Muslims coming out of Eidgah after offering the Namaz, with flowers.
The Sikh community welcomes the Muslims after Namaz in Bhopal, as a goodwill gesture. For decades the office-bearers of local Sikh organisations have been greeting Muslims ‘Eid Mubarak’ in this manner.Naturally, such a gesture overwhelms the other community. Reaching out to the other community is the need of the hour. We must celebrate the festivals of the other community and spread the message of harmony.

Such photographs are rare as people are getting narrow-minded and don’t prefer interacting with other communities and groups. Working relationships are okay but family ties are not as strong as they used to be in the past.
Here there is no political platform but the ordinary Sikhs meeting ordinary Muslims. And this is the spirit of Hindustaniat. Kudos to the Sikh organisations who take this extra step towards reaching to the other community. This photo has a lesson for everybody among us to learn. Will we?

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MSEDCL says people should cooperate

MUMBAI: Power situation in Maharashtra has worsened with the demand during October shooting up by an unprecedented 2,000 MW prompting the state power distribution company, to ask people to use power economically.

“People should cooperate and not to resort to agitations which may further aggravate the problem,” Maharashtra State Power Distribution Company Ltd (MSEDCL) also called ‘Mahavitran’ said in a statement issued here today.

“Evening peak hour demand stood at a whopping 15037 MW on October 18 compared to 13058 MW during October last year. On October 16, the demand was for 14,509 MW and on October 17 it was 14820 MW,” the statement said.

Incidentally, the supply on October 18 was 10475 MW resulting in a shortage of 4562 MW.

“Even though there is rise in demand, load-shedding is well managed and is in limit. Load shedding hours are planned as per the protocol approved by Maharashtra Electricity Regulatory Authority,” the statement said.

Normally, power demand in the state goes up by 700-800 MW every year. But during this October, it has increased by 2000 MW. The demand for power on October 18 was over 15,000 MW while 10475 MW power was available from all the sources including state projects, central government projects, Ratnagiri Gas Power Project Ltd and bilateral power purchases.

“As the demand has gone up unexpectedly, efforts are made on a war footing to alleviate the situation,” the statement said.

Power demand in the country has gone up due to rising economy. Like Maharashtra, other states are also facing power shortage. Hence getting power from other states to tide the gap has also become difficult, the statement said.

Read more about the MSEDCL’s report

October 20, 2007 Posted by | News and Views | , , , , | Leave a comment